Casual relationships on social media

Acharya Prashant
3 min readJul 11, 2020

Following is an excerpt from a samvaad (dialogue) session with Acharya Prashant.

Questioner: With the youth today we see a lot of movement into casual relationships. There are multiple apps which just help you with ‘hook-ups’ and very casual flings in that sense, so an increase in this trend of casual relationships. Is this something which is helpful for the youth today? Or is it something that we should simply avoid?

Acharya Prashant: It depends on where you’re coming from.

If you’re coming from a place where life proceeds in an arranged way — it’s well arranged — the kind of school and college you would go to, it’s well arranged - the shop that you would sit in once you’re out of college, and your marriage obviously too is well arranged then I would say, “Even this trend of putting your profile and account on tinder this is something for the better.” At least in some way, even if in a perverse way you’re gaining some freedom from the very straight jacketed enclosures of life. It’s alright.

On the other hand, if you’re someone who has been enjoying the fruits of a liberal environment and then the mischief within you sends you to one of these apps and you just want to have some cheap thrills then obviously it’s not doing you any good.

See keeping all the moral undertones aside for a while exploration per se has nothing evil about it, right? If you get to meet new people, how on earth are you going to decry it or call it unacceptable? There is just nothing vile about it.

But if the idea is to exploit the other person, if the idea is to objectify the other person, if the idea is to just give expression to the cheapest part of your personality then you know that you’re doing yourself no service by wasting your time and the others time on such apps.

But whether or not you’re on such apps, it is actually a good thing — yo know people especially as a young person. How else will you know what life is? By remaining confined within your walls? That’s not going to happen, neither are books going to tell you everything about life.

So, you’ll need to meet people and when I say people I do not necessarily mean people of the other gender or of a particular age group. You need to be communicative in