How to deal with memories of loss and death?

The following excerpt is from a samvaad (dialogue) session with Acharya Prashant.

Question: Acharya Ji, my father passed away four years ago, but still I miss him and he is in my memory. I don’t know how to deal with this condition. What is this all about?

Acharya Prashant:

You want to remember him as a body, as a person, and body can do no better than stay merely in your memories. The more we think of ourselves as a body, the more we will think of our loved ones as bodies.

And bodies have no other place in the universe.

If they are gross, they can be touched as material objects — material objects outside of you. Here you are taking of yourself as the body, and outside this body is, this object. And if this object is gone or destroyed, then the only other place this can be found is in the brain — in the brain, as a material configuration.

It’s material even when it is in the outside world, the world outside your body. And it remains material even when it is in the brain.

You very well know that all memories are stored in the brain, as something material. Therefore if you disturb the configuration of the brain, the memories also get disturbed. We have talked about it, right? If you hammer somebody’s brain he is…