Those who are free of the world, are free to relate with the world in a healthy way.
And those who are dominated by the world, have no real relationship with the world.
We are trained in usefulness, we pride ourselves on deriving uses out of even seemingly useless things. That is what we call as ‘innovation’. That we also call as ‘human creativity’.
“You see, this was just sand and we made a nuclear bomb out of it. Look at our creativity.”
But unless one learns the art of uselessness, his life will remain a perennial search; and that is not a good life to lead.
When one is not related to the other by way of habit or expectations, then there is complete freedom in the relationship.
Then one does not accept limitations or obligations, and nor does one impose obligations on the other.
It is really a healthy relationship, because then it is real, and present, moment to moment.
You are not obliged to carry forward the past. You can really know who the person standing in front of you is. You can really talk, you can really relate.
Once I told somebody, “Let’s say a stranger knocks at your door and before opening the door, you look at him. You at least pay some attention. You want to see what that person looks like, what his eyes are saying, what his purpose might be. But when the knock on the door is by your father, or by your friend, or by your husband, you don’t even bother to look at the face of the person, because you are carrying forward a lot of past.”
You say that you already know. How can there really be a relationship now? One can look sharply at the faces that appear in the magazines and in newspapers, but one hardly ever looks sharply at the faces and the eyes of the so-called ‘loved-ones’. For that matter, one does not look sharply even at his own face.
Only the man free of others, can have loving relationship with the others.
It is only when you do not really need the other, that there is a possibility of really relating with the other.
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