How to tell the truth to parents?

Acharya Prashant
4 min readSep 19, 2020

The following is an excerpt from a samvaad (dialogue) session with Acharya Prashant.

Question: When I used to ask questions to my mother and father, we would have conversations, and our conversations often ended on a bad note. My brother and sister would say, “You better not talk to them like this, because if you are right, then they are wrong; and if they are wrong, all these years which they have lived through will be wrong.”

Acharya Prashant (AP): Yes, and they have invested a lot in those years, so it proves that all their investment has gone waste, which means all their life has gone waste.

Listener (L): So it makes it very tough for them to just listen.

AP: It is these very simple and obvious things. “I put in so much of effort in the last thirty years, now will you just come and tell me that I was being stupid?” — It hurts. And just to avoid that hurt, you continue living in the same way.

L: To make those kinds of people happy, and at the same time live in your own way…

AP: But, when you look at others falling in this trap, do not think of it as something that happens to others; we are all one. If it is happening to them, it is quite likely happening to you and me as well. So, use — use is a bad word here but I’ll still use it — use the others to see your own mind. Because our minds are fundamentally the same.

It’s easy to criticize others,

but to see that you are in the same trap is difficult.

He may be a victim of religiousness, and you might be a victim of some other social propaganda, something that the media has brought to you, something that the corporations, the big industry has brought to you. But we all are susceptible to being conditioned. So, one has to see that.

Today’s religion is very different. We may say that we are Hindus, Muslims, or Christians, but the religion today is greed; information is religion; knowledge is religion; progress is religion.

You have to be equally alert against these neo-religions. Coolness is a religion, is it not? You have to be “cool” these days. I have seen it especially with the young people, their religion is coolness! So you have to see that this religion is…