If nothing succeeds in changing you, try Love

Acharya Prashant
5 min readSep 18, 2019

Question: Acharya Ji, Namaskar!

I want to get rid of some compulsive habits and some compulsive thoughts. There are some aspects of my personality that I do not like. I want to get rid of those aspects.

Also, I want to know how to develop unwavering attention.

Acharya Prashant Ji: It’s such an easy demand, you know.

It’s a small question.

If you want to change who you are, then you will have to want something radically different.

Your destination, your desire decides your constitution.

You become what you intend to achieve and be.

If you love the mud, you will become an earthworm. If you love the Sky, you will grow wings. Your entire personality will change.

That’s what you want, right? The entire personality must come apart. Then you have to change what you Love.

If you love the mud, then you cannot grow wings. Can you? if you love the mud, all you will get is a mud-worm. Do you have love for the Sky? If yes, the personality will change. The wings will appear.

The desire, the target has to be there. You have to submit yourself to something tremendous. Your goal will decide your life. Instead, we let our life decide our goal. And that is such a costly mistake.

If you want to let things continue as they are, then let your life decide your goal. Things will remain exactly as they are. The status-quo will prevail.

“This is how I am living, and hence this is where I want to go.” That’s how most people live, don’t they? Their goals are a product of their ways of living. Therefore they do not bring about any change, any fundamental change in the way they live.

If you really want to fundamentally change the way you are, then you have to have a goal that is tremendously brilliant, supremely attractive, and surrender to it. Your entire system will then be forced to adjust itself, rather take a re-birth, in order to achieve that goal.

The goal must not be what your system is already programmed to achieve, the goal has to be such that it causes a breakdown in your system. It tells your system that it is