If sex is sex and food is food, then you are home

Acharya Prashant
9 min readDec 22, 2021

The following is an excerpt from a samvaad (dialogue) session with Acharya Prashant.

Question (Q): Some things that I still like, for example, I like sex or good food, some other things; could that be blocking me from realization? Or it’s not that?

AP: See how simply you can accept that you like food or sex. How simply you can accept that. It’s okay, it’s fine.

The only thing that you can call a block is the thing that you do not acknowledge. So you are blocking, that is the block. You are blocking the acknowledgment. One has, as an offshoot of Prakriti, as a current in the whole flow of Prakriti, all the right to like good food, like good sex, like this and that, be entitled to his likes and dislikes; be honest.

Be honest; what was this? Good sex. Now don’t call it love and commitment. Be honest; what was it? Good food. Now don’t say, “it was a great spiritual experience.” What was it? It was a good intestinal experience. It was a good experience of the tongue. Now don’t say, “It satisfied my soul.”

Listener 1 (L1): But that would still be desire, I am still acting out of desire.

AP: Let the desires be there, what is so wrong with desires?

L1: The book says that desires……..

AP: Desires must be acknowledged as desires, and then they lose their sting. So when she asks, “Darling, what do I mean to you?” You must say, “Body, nice body; flesh.” That is honesty. Now if the relationship has to drop, it will drop. But you must be extremely honest. In fact, even saying body, is disguised, generalized dishonesty. You must specifically mention the body part that you fantasize, that you love. That’s what she means to most men, right? That is honesty. Now what is to drop, will get dropped.

L2: So there is a specific thing in spirituality about the sex and the transforming sex and all this?

AP: Sex energy simply means the energy to continue. Sex means procreation. Procreation means continuation in time, that’s all. Nothing complicated about it. Sexual energy, all libido is just about the ego’s urge to keep existing. Even after the demise of the body, you want to continue in some way. You want kids, that is why sex is so…