The following is an excerpt from a samvaad (dialogue) session with Acharya Prashant.
Of mismatched newlyweds,
One of whom still feels very insecure,
I keep turning to God
Acharya Prashant (AP): What would happen if you are already in a lip lock and you want to say “Kiss me”? What would happen if your lips are already sealed against the lips of the Beloved but you feel the need to use words? You want to confirm. You want to be sure. You want to give your formal consent. It is so important for you to ensure that you are being kissed because you said that you wanted to be kissed. And you are in a lip lock, what would you do? You would break away from the lover and say, “Kiss me”.
In saying kiss me, you have aborted the kiss. In saying kiss me, you have terminated the kiss.
That is the thing about anything real, the moment you ask it you lose it.
The moment you demand it, call for it, ask for it, you have lost it.
Whatever is real is never a matter of asking, demanding, pleading, praying; if it is real, rest assured it is already available.
Not only available, very much present. Not only present, so intimate, as is your heartbeat to you.
It is already so very there; present in each cell of your body as your genome; running in each vein as your blood.
Now, what do you mean by calling for it, asking for it, saying, pleading, expressing, consenting — “Kiss me”?
What else was happening till now, foolish one?
Now the moment is gone. Now the mood is spoiled. You tore away your lips from mine. We were one. But you are in such fondness of your personality, your individuality, your particular individual consent that you want to choose that you are being kissed. You want to take the credit that you received the kiss because you demanded it. You want to be the owner and the author of the kiss. You want to say…