Is family a problem?

Have you seen what you call as the normal relationship between parents and kids? Most relationships are like that. Parents that are insecure and ambitious at the same time. And it’s a miracle how people manage to carry these two together, insecurity and ambition. Trembling in one moment that they’re insufficient as people and parents, and ready to pounce in another moment at the highest possibilities and temptations that the world has to offer. Firing at the highest target. Nothing short of that will satiate them. And using the kid as cannon fodder in the process.

Is the family a problem? Or is the individual mind the problem?

If you are not relating to your kids, to family members, to neighbors or to colleagues, you would be relating to somebody, right. If the family is a problem, if the workplace is a problem, let us take away the family and the workplace. You would still be left with somebody to interact with. And if your very mind is diseased, whatever interactions you enter into, would also be diseased.

If your mind is healthy, then it is beautiful to have a relationship with a child. What’s wrong? Then the relationship is not a compulsion. Then there is nothing really distorted or ugly about the relationship.

Mostly we have heard that spiritual men and women do not have families. You haven’t heard it rightly, completely…