The following is an excerpt from a samvaad (dialogue) session with Acharya Prashant.
Acharya Prashant (AP): Sagar is asking, ‘Will we have to leave all our relationships?’ Then you are inviting me to speak on relationships, and what kind of relationships do we have?
Listener (L): The question is related to my personal life, like as I am becoming fearless, I am losing my peer group, I am losing my friends. So shouldn’t I take that into account?
AP: So are we saying that we cannot have a fearless relationship with our parents?
L: But, somewhere, somehow it will come into existence.
AP: Then that portion has to be cut away and I am saying ‘have Faith’. You can have a fearless relationship with not only your parents but the entire existence. You are afraid that the only relationship possible with the world is a relationship of fear, dependency, and greed. I am saying no, a relationship of love is possible. Your parents deserve it, the entire world deserves it.
Does it feel good to be related to somebody out of fear, because of fear? Does it feel good? Tell me seriously, does it feel good? I am opening a possibility; I am saying no, your relationship need not have any fear in it. But, this possibility too terrifies you (laughs). Why Sagar?
L: Sir, expectations kill. Apart from Mother Nature, there is no one who does not have expectations from us.
AP: They expect because at the root of everything lies Love. That Love, when it does not get a proper channel, then, it becomes distorted, then it becomes contaminated and it manifests itself as possessiveness, as expectations, and a lot of other diseases.
L: Sometimes I feel like that there are two sides of me, one sometimes rules the other and sometimes the second one overrules this one.
AP: There are not two. I assure you there are two thousand.
L: Sometimes there is work that I don’t want to do, but still it happens. I repeat it again and people have a question mark, and perfection is a problem. So when perfection begins because we can achieve something….
AP: Sagar, bottom line — do you want it?