Love is a choice
One is so attached to the material existence of the others, and one is so attached to things like job and money, that one’s happiness too is contingent on material things.
So, one is attached to the material, right?
Why don’t you start valuing love? And if you value love, then aren’t you valuing something that is not material? Is it not often a choice to value love over glitter, convenience, or money?