Following is an excerpt from a samvaad (dialogue) session with Acharya Prashant.
Questioner: You just talked about different planes of love that are possible, like mental, physical, spiritual. The way I have been raised, I understand only the mental and physical planes. That’s how I come to see the world itself as well. Maybe because of my upbringing, I have been made to feel that I am not that beautiful, so I want someone beautiful and that won’t just happen, because they also have the same definition of beauty and that’s where mental things come in. Somehow you are mentally well enough so may be that person likes you mentally and then she wants to be with you physically as well. How should I understand physical and mental attraction?
Acharya Prashant: That too depends on your definition of yourself. If you take yourself as primarily physical then beauty too for you would be something just physical right? You will look at the women most capable of successfully reproducing: that is the prakritik definition of beauty. Do you understand this? What is the prakritik definition of beauty? What is prakriti: physical nature. This, that we see all around us.
Here we don’t have beautiful stuff. Tell me beautiful stuff that you find in physical nature and you will be astonished that in physical nature most of that which you call as beautiful is nothing but that which leads to procreation.
The first thing that comes to mind are flowers. What are the flowers? Flowers are the reproductive organs of the plant or the tree aren’t they? Getting it? In physical nature, in prakriti stuff that directly corresponds to reproduction appears attractive.
Now you know why you are attracted to particular physical parts of a woman, those parts are most likely to be the ones that are related to her capacity to reproduce, right? And it is common knowledge that in general, most women would feel attracted to a male, who has a certain built, or other stuff that can offer better protection to the off springs. So all these talks of beauty at the physical level is just DNA trying to carry itself forward to the next human being.
If you think that you are just a body, then all that you care for is height and stuff such as complexion. If you take yourself as mere mental then, you…