A movement into oneself brings about a lot of new things. That which used to frighten you, does not appear so very frightening. That which would easily disturb you, appears a bit childish now. The tendency to lose equilibrium reduces. You do not easily go off-center. And even if you do, you return comparatively sooner. An urge to explore new things arises.
And there are many-many changes. Sometimes even the language changes. Sometimes even before you can realise that there is a change, outsiders begin telling you that there is a change.
These changes are all there.
And as you soak in those changes, as you revel in those changes, your appetite to revel in them further increases.
That’s all very auspicious, very good!
Regarding a couple practicing aloneness, the fact that the two of you are married comes later. First of all, the two of you are human beings. Two human beings, both with an urge towards the Truth, and both with a right over the Truth.
It is just incidental that these two are married.
If the two persons who are in this social arrangement of marriage are also spiritual friends, then they rise above social arrangement.
The social arrangement by itself is a recipe for disaster.
But when the social arrangement is purified, consecrated by the spiritual touch, then the poison in it is neutralised.
In fact, there is only one antidote to the poison called ‘marriage’, and that is spiritual association between the man and the woman.
Now that the two of you are together and you probably also have kids, and there are various physical, social and economic circumstances that are too heavy on you, and you have to be together, then the only and best way of togetherness is — spiritual togetherness.
Spiritual togetherness will not only take the poison out of the marriage but actually turns the marriage into something immensely beautiful. Marriages are socially not designed to be beautiful. The way the very institution is defined, it's a crazy thing.
But you can still not only correct that mistake but actually turn into an advantage, which by the way also…