The following is an excerpt from a samvaad (dialogue) session with Acharya Prashant.
Questioner: Acharya Ji, a lot of changes have happened in my lifestyle and in my relationship with my wife after I have started watching your videos and reading your books. We spend a lot of time alone now. We don’t get into escapes easily, don’t get into such entertainment activities which can cause suffering later on.
But, as I am spending more and more time with books, watching your videos, and observing my mind, at times I wonder: is this also an escape?
Is this the right way, or am I am doing something wrong?
Another question is: As a married couple, there is aloneness in our relationship, though we are together. Can aloneness happen between a couple?
Can marriage and Spirituality go together? What is the effect of Spirituality on marriage?
A movement into oneself brings about a lot of new things.
That which used to frighten you does not appear so very frightening.
That which would easily disturb you appears a bit childish now.
The tendency to lose equilibrium reduces, you do not easily go off-center.
And even if you do, you return comparatively sooner.
An urge to explore new things arises.
And there are many many changes.
Sometimes even the language changes. Sometimes even before you can realize that there is a change, outsiders begin telling you that there is a change.
These changes are all there.
And as you soak in those changes, as you revel in those changes, your appetite to revel in them further increases.
That’s all very auspicious, very good!
Regarding a couple practicing aloneness, the fact that the two of you are married, comes later. First of all, the two of you are human beings. Two human beings, both with an urge towards the Truth, and both with a right over the Truth.
It is just incidental that these two are married.
If the two persons who are in this social arrangement of marriage are also spiritual friends, then they rise above social arrangement.