The true Lover wants you free; the false lover wants you dependent

The following is an excerpt from a samvaad (dialogue) session with Acharya Prashant.

Question (Q): Sir, if someone wants to do something we don’t agree with, you say let just people do whatever they want. If we don’t agree with what is happening we have to think a lot or just let it happen?

Acharya Prashant (AP): No. Before asking what if we do not agree and whether to do and what to do about other’s actions. Is it not firstly important to see what in you agrees or disagrees?

Who is the one agreeing or disagreeing?

You might be the one operating from a center of fear. So whenever you will see a fearless one you will disagree with his actions. Now, is it important to investigate what he is doing or is it more important to first see from where is my own disagreement arising? From which center is my disagreement arising?

Similarly, if you believe in a certain ideology and you find somebody else following that ideology. You will quickly agree. Now, is this agreement important or is it more important to see that I am agreeing only because he is doing the same thing as I do, believing in the same stuff as I do?

So the question firstly must be about ourselves not about others. From where is my agreement coming…