What is a relationship of love?

Acharya Prashant
4 min readFeb 14, 2020

What is love? A relationship with the other. What kind of relationship one has with the other depends on the relationship one has with oneself. In the sense that, it’s me who relates to you. Now the ability to relate vests in me. So, it depends on the configuration of my mind. The kind of relationship that I’ll have with you or with anybody else, with the entire world depends on the kind of mind I have.

Suppose, I have a mind that is full of doubts and suspicions then, what kind of relationship will I have? A suspicious relationship.

Suppose I have a mind that is always feeling inadequate and unworthy, then what kind of relationship will I have? A relationship of need and dependency.

So, it says that love is the relationship with the other. The relationship that one has with the other depends on the relationship firstly one has with himself. So, love firstly is one’s own relationship with oneself which in turn translates into one’s relationship with others.

Now, then what does it mean to have a loving relationship with oneself? What we are saying is, “In order to have a loving relationship with the other. One first needs to have a loving relationship with oneself.”

So, what is it to have a loving relationship with oneself?

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