Companionship is wonderful.
Be with one person, ten persons, anybody who helps your mind be centered. Being with such a person, or a group of persons, is wonderful.
If marriage is another name for beautiful companionship, wonderful. But what matters is not the social institution of marriage, but the fact that you are with someone.
When you are with someone, the presence of that someone, will necessarily have an effect on you, and vice-versa.
You must know the effect that the other’s presence have upon you.
If someone’s effect has a becalming effect on your mind, soothing effect on your mind, illuminating effect on your mind, liberating effect on your mind, go ahead and boldly be with that person or persons, as much as you want to.
But be with them, only as long as their effect on you is liberating. And be with them only as long as you do not become dependent on them, neither they become dependent on you.
It has to be a mutually healthy relationship, not a relationship in which you enter because of sexuality, or loneliness, or social pressure.
You already have enough troubles, right?
You don’t want to invite another trouble into your house, into your bedroom. Do you? But yes, if someone can bring Joy and Truth to you, invite them right into your heart. And then marriage is inconsequential.
With the right person — you marry, wonderful. You don’t marry, wonderful. With the wrong person — you marry, bad luck. You don’t marry, bad luck.
What do you think, only married people have troubles? You might be single, you might be a bachelor, and still you may have very bad company. And then you are equally troubled, as a husband and as a wife is.
It’s not a matter of being in that institution.
The question is: What brings you that institution? Look around, see why people marry. Do they marry because it’s an affirmation of their divine love? Is that how it happens? Seriously?
In our country (India), most people marry because that’s the only way to get some good sex, good and assured sex. Otherwise, the fellow would have to spend a lot of money, or a lot…