Why is it so difficult to trust?

Acharya Prashant
7 min readNov 5, 2021

The following is an excerpt from a samvaad (dialogue) session with Acharya Prashant.

Acharya Prashant: The question is, ‘Why do I find myself unable to trust?’

I could see that he was feeling a little awkward while raising this question, even a little apologetic. You feel that maybe there is something wrong with you that you find yourself unable to trust but let me just tell you, you are a very honest being when you say that you can’t trust. The fact of the matter is that there are very few people on this entire earth who are not living in insecurity, who are not living in doubt.

When you say “I can’t trust” you mean that your mind is full of doubts, apprehensions but then so is everybody else’s mind. Do you think that everybody else in this auditorium is free of concerns, free of doubts? Not really. The truth is far from that. And the proof is that we are always insecure. We are always hunting for security. We are always looking for something that would give us that elusive sense of safety. If everybody is looking for that, that means everybody is insecure. Everybody is doubtful.

So, first thing is that take this out of your mind that this situation is particular to you. Everybody is facing this situation. This is what is making life such a tedious affair. This question is not only your question, this situation is everybody’s situation. It is just that only a few people realize it and out of those who realize, only a few are honest enough to speak of it.

Now we will go into the reasons for this ‘trust deficit’. What do we mean by trust? What do we mean by trust?

Trust can take two forms. First is ‘belief’ and the second is ‘Faith’.

Since childhood, our mind has been filled with beliefs. Are you getting it? What is a belief? A belief is something that you have accepted without knowing or understanding. It is an external imposition. It comes from outside and you take it in. It is not really a product of your intelligence. You have just internalized it. That’s what a belief is. We all just keep believing. We don’t know, we don’t understand, we just keep believing. And that is the form of our ‘trust’.

When you usually say, “I trust you”, all you say is — “I believe you”. Or, “I believe in a…

Acharya Prashant