The following is an excerpt from a samvaad (dialogue) session with Acharya Prashant.
Question (Q): What is personality?
Acharya Prashant (AP): Personality is an expression of your individuality.
What core is to gloss, individuality is to personality. What core is to gloss, what center is to circumference, is individuality to personality. Personality is and must be just a natural, clear, honest expression of what you really really are, your individuality.
So, personality grooming, if it really can mean anything, it can only mean a direct connect between what you are, and what you appear. Personality is what you appear. What you appear should not be different from what you are. This is personality grooming, to bring you yourself closer to yourself. Personality development is essentially self-development. Personality development is about reducing your artificiality and bringing you closer to yourself. Please understand this.
Personality development is not about making you more artificial, it is about reducing your artificiality so that you become authentic, real, true. So that you have deep trust in whatever you are. So that you are never afraid.
An artificial man is always afraid that the mask can fall down anytime, that somebody can see beyond the mask. The real man is never afraid.
How many of you want to be afraid?
How many of you want to live fearlessly? Raise your hands.
(Many listeners raise their hands)
Now do you understand what personality development is? Real personality development is fearlessness. “I do not need a mask. I am not afraid. I do not need a mask. I am good as I am. Let nobody tell me that I need to be artificial. I will not allow the society to influence me. I will not let allow movie stars to influence me. I will not allow the current trends to influence me. Religion, family, philosophy- I will not allow all of them to influence me.”
“My individuality, my own intelligence is what I am, and I will keep close to it. I will have no hesitation in the full expression of my individuality, my intelligence. I will let…