With youth: What is the relation between love and kids?

Acharya Prashant
5 min readNov 14, 2022

The following is an excerpt from a samvaad (dialogue) session with Acharya Prashant.

Acharya Prashant (AP): The first question asked in today’s session was, “Why do people have kids?” The second one, which is very funnily related was “What is love?” So my question to you is, “What is the relation between love and kids?”

Listener 1 (L1): Kids are born out of love.

(Laughter)

AP: Mohit, what is the relation between love and kids?

L2: Sir, I don’t find any relation.

AP: You did not find any relation, but the whole world finds the relation. The entire world finds the relation. “A Child is the outcome of our love,” that’s what they say.

What is the relation between love and kids? First of all, get this out of your mind that there is a relation. You know it is very easy to theoretically put this, that there is no relationship. But when you look at the relationship people have with their parents, then you realize that most of us actually think that there is a relation between love and procreation, between love and reproduction. There is no relation at all. Please!

Love is one thing, and having kids, procreation is an entirely physical thing. Entirely physical. We have spoken about that a lot already. Love is a different matter altogether. They are as different as chalk and cheese. They are as different as brain and intelligence. We can say that it is the insecurity of the brain which urges us to procreate.

Love is not an urge of the brain.

Now, what is love?

Love is not an urge of the brain. Love is not your physical conditioning. Then what is love?

Alright. Write down so that we have something to start with.

Statement 1: Love is my own state of mind in which I am very joyful. This joy has a nature of overflowing.

Statement 2: This joy has the nature of overflowing. Its nature is to radiate, just as when the sun is bright, its radiation reaches others as well. So this love has the nature of overflowing, which means reaching others.

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